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Read about some of the common snags that we all come cross in making our love lives a success.
What’s your Relationship Dance?
The couple sit down and as she starts to talk, her husband looks away. He seems more interested in the books on my shelf. The more emotional and pleading she gets, the more withdrawn and shut down he gets. He says he wants the relationship to improve but he can't...
Are you lonely in Your Relationship?
Connection is the corner stone of all good relationships. I have worked with so many people who often sit in my room and talk about the fact that they are not particularly unhappy but they feel like they are living parallel lives. There is nothing as painful as...
Help! My partner refuses to come to Couples Therapy Counselling
Sometimes with the best will in the world our partner refuses to do couple therapy. You know that the time has come to make some changes as your relationship is in trouble. You have asked nicely, you have cajoled and still your partner wont budge. There are a number...
Family Loyalty
Family loyalty is such a complex thing. Blood is thicker than water. Our family of origin is where we learn the many unwritten rules of how we relate. We can often hit a snag when we form our own families and new rules and loyalties need to be forged. Many years ago I...
Looking for Couple Counselling? Two Important Questions to Ask Â
So, you are experiencing some problems in your marriage and you have decided that it would be useful to have some couple counselling. This may be a turning point in your relationship. Deciding on who you are happy to work with and can trust is imperative. Finding a...
Grit your teeth and struggle through. Is this the key to happy relationships?
This may have escaped popular notice, but last week was national marriage week, a celebration of an enduring if seldom untroubled institution. By coincidence or not, several studies were also published that shed light on the state of the nation’s relationships. The...
Taking charge of your Life just when you think your body is winning!
The menopause, the change, the pause, what ever you call it, it is a time to re-evaluate our lives. Hormones collide at a time of great change in our lives. Our children are starting to leave the nest, partners will now have a clear idea of their career trajectory and...
Making Love Last
It is that time of year, the sun is shining and days are longer. My life is spent thinking, talking and researching love and what makes it last. I was fascinated to read John Gottman’s psychological research into what makes love last and the five indicators he...
Perfect Parenting
There is no such thing as the perfect parent. There I said it! Many of us strive for that goal which in its self is not a bad thing but not if it makes us feel like a failure. Children don’t need a super parent, nor the perfect version of you just you with all the...
Choose your counsellor wisely!
So you are experiencing some problems in your marriage and you have decided that it would be useful to have some couples counselling. This is may be a turning point in your relationship. Deciding on who you are happy to work with and trust is imperative. Finding a...
Take the First Step Towards a Stronger Relationship
Whether you’re looking for couples therapy, individual counselling, or family support, Pam Custers & Associates offers experienced, compassionate care. Our diverse team of therapists ensures you’ll be matched with the right professional for your journey.