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Divorce and Children: How to Support Your Child Through Separation

By Pam Custers, Relationship Therapist SW19 MA Pg/Dip (RELATE) Relationship Therapist  Published on 23rd August, 2018  When our children are hurting, so do we as parents, doubly so when we feel it is somehow our fault. Divorce brings up a range of differing...

Men’s mental health is no longer taboo 

By Pam Custers, Relationship TherapistSW19 MA Pg/Dip (RELATE) Relationship Therapist  Published on 16th November, 2021 | Updated on 7th October, 2022  We need to talk about men's mental health! Men’s mental health needs to be taken seriously. When one in...

Low Self Esteem in Relationships: Signs and How to Improve

By Pam Custers, Relationship Therapist SW19 MA Pg/Dip (RELATE) Relationship Therapist  Published on 1st September, 2022  Is your self-esteem standing in the way of your happiness and your relationships? This is a very important question to ask yourself....

Communication in Relationships: How Active Listening Builds Deeper Connection

By Pam Custers, Relationship TherapistSW19 MA Pg/Dip (RELATE) Relationship Therapist  Published on 7th October, 2022  "You aren't listening to me!"Do you sometimes wonder whether your partner is losing their hearing? Do they respond to you as though...

Stress is a part of life

We can't open a magazine or read the newspaper without being reminded how stress impacts our lives. The impact of stress can't be underestimated. We are often told to adjust our lives shift our mindset or simply "take a break" in order to de stress but sometimes our...

How happy is your family

How happy is your family? Our families bring us joy, better health and wellbeing but they can also be the source of distress. The pandemic has not eased the situation. Navigating family life is a process of being able to create healthy connection that can tolerate...

Keep the love alive!

With the new year well on the way it’s almost time to think about all things love. How do we keep the love alive? Some interesting research recently crossed my desk. The title was ‘Forget Romance and Think Excitement’. Keeping the love alive is always key to the...

How happy is your family?

Our families bring us joy, better health and wellbeing but they can also be the source of distress. The pandemic has not eased the situation. Navigating family life is a process of being able to create healthy connection that can tolerate life challenges without...

When health anxiety affects our health.

With all the talk of the Corona virus it is little wonder that we may start feeling anxious. When we suffer from anxiety already, something like the fear of getting ill can tip us over the edge. Anxiety about this virus can set off a whole range of thoughts, feelings...

Cultivating hope in times of uncertainty

Lock down has intensified all our feelings and none more so than those of young people. Suddenly life is under the microscope. Not only do we feel like we have been living through a life and death scenario but for young people the last three months have felt like a...

Health anxiety and the coronavirus

When health anxiety affects our health With all the talk of the coronavirus, it is little wonder that we may start feeling anxious. When we suffer from anxiety already, something like the fear of getting ill can tip us over the edge. Anxiety about this virus can...

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Is It Ever OK To Smack A Child?

After Martin Freeman admitted he has done it, parents are now debating whether corporal punishment is ever a necessary form of discipline. The actor Martin Freeman has admitted to smacking his children when they were young, saying that sometimes it’s just too...

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Daring Greatly

Why read it? This will shift the way you think about your vulnerabilities. To reshape the way you look at your own vulnerability – as a strength, not a weakness! Using 12 years of research, Brené Brown shows us how a willingness to be vulnerable can benefit all...

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Paired New App

I am delighted to announce that I am a resident expert on Paired which was recently featured in the press. Paired is a new app for couples that is designed to improve communication and deepen connection. Paired has already been launched in Australia and...

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Feel the chill and not the overwhelm

Oh to feel chilled and not anxious, exhausted and overwhelmed. When the nights draw in and we turn our attention to the festive season feelings are mixed. We all wish for a relaxing end of the year when family and friends gather together and there is goodwill for...

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Can a relationship ever be ‘happily ever after’?

The couple walks in, sits down heavily and says we fight too much. We have all bought into the notion that if we love each other there will only be harmony and contentment. If only. We know that we have to work at our relationships. Anyone who has a successful...

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