by Pam Custers | Feb 7, 2018 | Category One
The couple sit down and as she starts to talk, her husband looks away. He seems more interested in the books on my shelf. The more emotional and pleading she gets, the more withdrawn and shut down he gets. He says he wants the relationship to improve but he...
by Pam Custers | Sep 7, 2017 | Category One
Family loyalty is such a complex thing. Blood is thicker than water. Our family of origin is where we learn the many unwritten rules of how we relate. We can often hit a snag when we form our own families and new rules and loyalties need to be forged. Many years ago I...
by Pam Custers | Aug 7, 2017 | Category One
So, you are experiencing some problems in your marriage and you have decided that it would be useful to have some couple counselling. This may be a turning point in your relationship. Deciding on who you are happy to work with and can trust is imperative. Finding a...
by Pam Custers | Jun 20, 2017 | Category One
This may have escaped popular notice, but last week was national marriage week, a celebration of an enduring if seldom untroubled institution. By coincidence or not, several studies were also published that shed light on the state of the nation’s relationships. The...
by Pam Custers | May 25, 2017 | Category One, Category Three
It is that time of year, the sun is shining and days are longer. My life is spent thinking, talking and researching love and what makes it last. I was fascinated to read John Gottman’s psychological research into what makes love last and the five indicators he...
